by Michael Webb

http://www.50secrets.com/

The other day a friend was sharing with Athena and me that when her
first son was born they were so excited at the new adventure that they
did some things they later regretted. One of those things was to
begin feeding him solid foods when he was only two months old.
Practically every authority recommends that you wait until a baby is
at least five or six months until they begin eating foods. Their
digestive systems aren’t typically mature enough to handle solids and
you greatly increase a child’s chance of having allergies and other
problems if you introduce food too soon.

Now here is some advice many of you probably don’t want to hear about
what you shouldn’t do early on in your relationship and I’ll probably
get a lot of nasty mail because of it. But I don’t write on tough
issues to be popular. I write it to help people have blissful
relationships.

If you want to have a blissful relationship, don’t ruin the chances by
introducing things into your relationship until you are ready for it.

I’m constantly bewildered when people can’t figure out why they keep
having failed relationships when they always muddle them with physical
intimacy. It’s fairly common for couples to kiss on their first date,
begin caressing soon afterwards and start a sexual relationship
within a few weeks or months of knowing each other.

While I’m not going to tell you how long you should wait to begin
kissing, hugging and making non-sexual contact, I’m going to boldly
state that our bodies and minds are not designed for sexual
relationships until marriage. The two go hand and hand and to try to
separate them causes a lot of emotional turmoil in our relationships.

The average American has ten s.exual partners before they are married.
They either think each partner is "the one" or they think sex is so
wonderful they don’t want to miss out on the opportunity. Sex is
indeed wonderful and very special and saving it for the wedding night
is treating it as something special. Sharing it with practically
everyone you date makes it rather ordinary.

Here are just a few of the emotional problems pre-marital sex can
cause:

• When you sleep with someone you aren’t married to, they begin to get
  concerned with how many other people you have slept with.
• If you are willing to have sex with someone you aren’t married to,
  will you feel the same after you are married? How about your spouse?
• One has a tendency to compare their partner with their previous
  ones. Regret, jealousy, guilt, remorse and angst are just a few of
  the emotions that sex before marriage will bring.
• Since sexual relationships were designed for married couples, your mind
  naturally begins pushing the relationship further along than where you
  might be.
• You might not even know the person you are sleeping with but the
  sexual act will naturally make you form an emotional attachment to
  them. Many couples who really shouldn’t be together are married
  because a pre-marital sexual relationship "bonded" them together
  when they wouldn’t have bonded without being physically intimate.
• I’ve talked with quite a few people who waited to begin a sexual
  relationship until they were married and *none* of them have regretted
  it. I’ve chatted with numerous people who began a sexual relationship before the wedding and practically all of them had
  regrets.

While waiting to have sex until you are married won’t guarantee a blissful relationship,
it will certainly cause your mate to honor and respect you much more than if you didn’t.

Love, marriage and sex — let’s keep them in that order.

Something to think about…